Whyamilikethis? wrote:
Looking to have a genuine discussion here about loneliness. I’m 28M, have a great job, running is great (2:20 hoping to OTQ in 2023), make good money and have great family and friends. I don’t have many other hobbies though (no video games, I don’t read, don’t watch sports really). I’ve been single most of my adult life with no serious relationships. Seems like I have mostly an ideal life right? But I’m so lonely I crave closer connections and am never satisfied with my life and goals. And to be honest I’m not sure how. Even if I OTQ, make 6 figures, own a house, get a relationship, etc it’s never enough I don’t think.
I tried online dating and it’s just not for me and going to events and bars and what not and it’s fun in the moment but never lasts. I tried new hobbies but they don’t stick or I can’t make time for them with running and work. Or straight up I drop them because I think they’re unproductive.
Does anyone feel the same way? Or felt this way before and know how to escape? I’ve felt this way most my adult life and I almost feel like I need some sort of tragedy or hardship to bring meaning to my life. I’m extremely grateful for situation don’t get me wrong though. Also, I wouldn’t mind having a relationship either but not many people I’ve met feel like a good match and to be honest in quite a boring person. Thanks for listening and would love to here other opinions, stories, or advice on this.
Making running your only hobby will inevitably lead to this emotional state. I know...I've been there.
"Even if I OTQ, make 6 figures, own a house, get a relationship, etc it’s never enough I don’t think."
Of course it will never be enough! You're asking those things to do something they can't do - fulfill you. It would be like asking your car to change a lightbulb in your bedroom.
Go read the book of Ecclesiastes. About three thousand years ago, a guy named Solomon was king of Israel. He had more wealth, wisdom, and women than anyone else of his day, and he found himself right where you are. See what conclusion he reached, then reach your own.