It's fine if you're in your late 30s and still go on dates with a bunch of randoms. But you probably shouldn't be criticizing other people for not having their sh*t together...
This is correct, womein in their 30s and 40's with college degrees and whatnot are iether single or married up. most of the academic and professional women are super-specific about dating certain dudes etc. whereas blue-collar women are more open to a range of guys
I get the feeling that the highly organised, efficient women that tend to make good decisions in life and work as doctors, lawyers, academics, managers, etc aren't going to be dating you anyway. Generally, they aren't into online dating, especially not with men who date multiple chicks.
For whatever readon, you are dating poorer, somewhat vulnerable women. That might be your choice, it might be only those women who agree to date you. But don't pretend that all women are like this. There are plenty of women who are not. You just aren't dating them.
There are lots of men who fall into the category you describe too. You aren't dating them either. It's a joke amongst my female friends that no man falls in love more quickly than a man looking to move into a woman's home.
Many of them are on the online dating sites
and yes, some men are like that too but a woman has to be an idiot not to be able to weed them out
It's fine if you're in your late 30s and still go on dates with a bunch of randoms. But you probably shouldn't be criticizing other people for not having their sh*t together...
This is kind of what I ended up figuring out. I used to be of the mindset that I'd give just about anyone a shot with a first date if they were fairly attractive and no major red flags, but I ended up realizing that one of the drawbacks to becoming successful in life is that the pool of people you're willing to date goes way down, and most people are pretty giant idiots, honestly. Not trying to be misanthropic, but the truth is most people just have lots of really stupid problems that could be easily fixed if they just had their wits about them a bit. Kind of blows my mind how many grown adults are still living life like immature teenagers, spending money impulsively, smoking weed regularly, never exercising, eating junk food every day, etc. It's like taking care of oneself is a totally foreign concept.
I get the feeling that the highly organised, efficient women that tend to make good decisions in life and work as doctors, lawyers, academics, managers, etc aren't going to be dating you anyway. Generally, they aren't into online dating, especially not with men who date multiple chicks.
For whatever readon, you are dating poorer, somewhat vulnerable women. That might be your choice, it might be only those women who agree to date you. But don't pretend that all women are like this. There are plenty of women who are not. You just aren't dating them.
There are lots of men who fall into the category you describe too. You aren't dating them either. It's a joke amongst my female friends that no man falls in love more quickly than a man looking to move into a woman's home.
Many of them are on the online dating sites
and yes, some men are like that too but a woman has to be an idiot not to be able to weed them out
alot of the women are super picky too. White collar women with degrees is a privilege thing so they won't consider dudes who may be inot HVAC, trades, etc. So a bit of gatekeeping going on.
Same thing with dudebros/gym rats who will only look for instahot girls but not average girls with great personalities.
Tinder has a lot of Asian woman scammer who try to tell you they are into crypto investing as a hobby. Really it is a man behind the computer trying to get a hold of your sh*tcoin wallet and try to convince you (phishing attempt)
and yes, some men are like that too but a woman has to be an idiot not to be able to weed them out
alot of the women are super picky too. White collar women with degrees is a privilege thing so they won't consider dudes who may be inot HVAC, trades, etc. So a bit of gatekeeping going on.
Same thing with dudebros/gym rats who will only look for instahot girls but not average girls with great personalities.
Maybe n=1 but as a "white collar woman" who is financially responsible, I would jump at the opportunity to have a partner who is in skilled trades. High level of job security, usually decent to great income, and I respect the heck out of a specialized, technical skill set. Hot.
The main downside is that some of those fields can wreak havoc on a person's body, and I'd be worried about my partner's health as a result.
Some people rigid and judge a man too much by job title and vice versa (man judging a woman). Job title/prestigious sounding career != (not necessarily)solid net worth/wealth/secure financial future.
The main thing is just be a nice person. If I go out on a date and they’re discussing that kind of stuff the first few dates, I’m going to end things. When the time comes to discuss the serious stuff, talk to an estate attorney first. Don't get rushed to the courthouse like I did (once).
Men also can be terrible with money, or have low-paying jobs, but aren't as open about it. I once went out with a Ph.D. candidate who called me his "sugar momma" because I had a government job. Do I think all men are like that? No, but appreciated the honesty. We didn't break up because he was a broke student, BTW. We broke up because he was overall a weirdo.
I know both women who are good with money, and those who aren't.
Single women without children and with are by far the lowest net worth, based on statistics, for a variety of reasons that have nothing to do with how "responsible" they are. But a forum like this doesn't allow for nuance or deep discussion beyond "women suck" or "they make 80 cents to every dollar a man makes."
I've gone out with quite a few different women in their 30s and 40s this year, and something that has struck me as pretty odd is that about half of them have voluntarily, unwittingly (I think), told me they are utterly terrible with money. Case in point, I recently went out with a woman who is 41 who needed me to pick her up because her car is having issues. No big deal I thought, it happens, but then she immediately goes on to say she hopes her son's friend can fix it for her as a favor because the shop estimate was $1000 and she "definitely doesn't have that!". Like wtf? How big of a dufus do you have to be to be 40+ years old and not even have $1000? This is not an isolated incident either. Seems like about half the women I've gone out with give some similar story or talk about money being tight, not being able to afford XYZ until their next payday, etc. I had more than $1000 in my savings account as a 5th grader with a paper route. How on Earth is anyone so terrible at life and money management that they can't even save $1000 in 20 years of adulthood? Seems almost hard to believe.
Also, FYI -- the more money a woman makes, the less she "needs" a man.
alot of the women are super picky too. White collar women with degrees is a privilege thing so they won't consider dudes who may be inot HVAC, trades, etc. So a bit of gatekeeping going on.
Same thing with dudebros/gym rats who will only look for instahot girls but not average girls with great personalities.
Maybe n=1 but as a "white collar woman" who is financially responsible, I would jump at the opportunity to have a partner who is in skilled trades. High level of job security, usually decent to great income, and I respect the heck out of a specialized, technical skill set. Hot.
The main downside is that some of those fields can wreak havoc on a person's body, and I'd be worried about my partner's health as a result.
good point and I respect your take for sure.
I think society's conditioned men/women to just go for the white collar jobs for prestige and blue collar trades are left behind. So it also affects social dating dynamic stuff too and power dynamics. you are right about physiclal stress and tha's why most are probably shooting for white collar forever jobs.
white collar jobs are at elast easy on the body, so everyone's trying to get in. working for a big company is a good forever job but it also depends on he industry. software is probably one of the last few, as is medical. but not everyone has the skillz or aptitude to do those roles.
I've gone out with quite a few different women in their 30s and 40s this year, and something that has struck me as pretty odd is that about half of them have voluntarily, unwittingly (I think), told me they are utterly terrible with money. Case in point, I recently went out with a woman who is 41 who needed me to pick her up because her car is having issues. No big deal I thought, it happens, but then she immediately goes on to say she hopes her son's friend can fix it for her as a favor because the shop estimate was $1000 and she "definitely doesn't have that!". Like wtf? How big of a dufus do you have to be to be 40+ years old and not even have $1000? This is not an isolated incident either. Seems like about half the women I've gone out with give some similar story or talk about money being tight, not being able to afford XYZ until their next payday, etc. I had more than $1000 in my savings account as a 5th grader with a paper route. How on Earth is anyone so terrible at life and money management that they can't even save $1000 in 20 years of adulthood? Seems almost hard to believe.
Also, FYI -- the more money a woman makes, the less she "needs" a man.
vert accurate and I think that's another thing most guys won't say or mention on the dating sites...I have lots of single females friends who can't get guys. they are all in great jobs and they are wondering why it's not working out or no guy iwill talk to them?!
Are guys just intimidated by women in power roles now? could b an unspoken thing or 2
I've gone out with quite a few different women in their 30s and 40s this year, and something that has struck me as pretty odd is that about half of them have voluntarily, unwittingly (I think), told me they are utterly terrible with money.