Generally speaking, the expectation is that it will be a weekend away from your fiancee. But you do you man.
I don't know your friends, but I'd strongly suspect there's a very good chance many of them will find reasons to bail if you insist on bringing your fiancee to the party.
Enjoy a night out with the boys. Tell them you aren't interested in a hookers and blow kind of affair. Daytime activity followed by dinner and drinks is what you're looking for.
It's not a bachelor party if your soon to be wife attends.
Generally speaking, the expectation is that it will be a weekend away from your fiancee. But you do you man.
I don't know your friends, but I'd strongly suspect there's a very good chance many of them will find reasons to bail if you insist on bringing your fiancee to the party.
This. I have a buddy who also didn’t want to do the casino and strippers drunk weekend for a bachelor party. So be it but if he’d asked to bring his fiancée along to anything we planned and paid for, I would have skipped it and I’m guessing the other guys mostly would do the same. Don’t disrespect your friends by asking them to support a pre-honeymoon. It’s about your friends getting time with you before you get busy in the married life.
Haven't you seen the beginning of The Hangover? The whole point is that you pretend you aren't having one and that you are doing something lame. ***...
Is your fiance having a bachelorette party? If so, I'm on board with the two parties meeting up for a few hours each day (if it's a multi-day thing). But your obsession with spending all the time with her is a bad sign: co-dependence.
Yea if you’re being this weird about it, a friend of mine had us get separate airbnbs in the same city and we met up at a club. It was a chance to hang out and meet the wedding party and our friend got to chill with his fiancé. Then we all went back to our separate airbnbs. I think that’s a dope compromise
I like bachelor's parties less than just about anyone I know, but it doesn't sound healthy to me that you can't stand the idea of going out with friends without having your fiance/wife along.
You need to learn to love someone and still maintain an independent identity if you want a fulfilling life, IMO.
Is your fiance having a bachelorette party? If so, I'm on board with the two parties meeting up for a few hours each day (if it's a multi-day thing). But your obsession with spending all the time with her is a bad sign: co-dependence.
Yea if you’re being this weird about it, a friend of mine had us get separate airbnbs in the same city and we met up at a club. It was a chance to hang out and meet the wedding party and our friend got to chill with his fiancé. Then we all went back to our separate airbnbs. I think that’s a dope compromise
I think it's fair to say a healthy couple's friends know one-another well before the wedding. Beyond that, the engagement party, wedding shower, and WEDDING are a chance to meet and hangout with the wedding party, no?
Anywho, here's the definition of a bachelor party:
- a party given for a man who is about to get married, typically one attended by men only. (Oxford)
- a celebration for a soon-to-be groom organized and attended primarily by male friends (dictionary.com)
- is a party for a man who is about to be married usually attended by men only (merriam)
Want to break the mold? Go for it. I know two friends who attended different co-ed "bachelor" parties and both left early because it was awkward. Not for me. Wouldn't recommend. You should be able to enjoy a weekend away with your best friends. If you can't do that, seek a counselor.
On the other hand it's her last romp also. Maybe she can get gang-banged by all his friends and family. It could serve to ease some of the tension surrounding the wedding...
Yea if you’re being this weird about it, a friend of mine had us get separate airbnbs in the same city and we met up at a club. It was a chance to hang out and meet the wedding party and our friend got to chill with his fiancé. Then we all went back to our separate airbnbs. I think that’s a dope compromise
I think it's fair to say a healthy couple's friends know one-another well before the wedding. Beyond that, the engagement party, wedding shower, and WEDDING are a chance to meet and hangout with the wedding party, no?
Anywho, here's the definition of a bachelor party:
- a party given for a man who is about to get married, typically one attended by men only. (Oxford)
- a celebration for a soon-to-be groom organized and attended primarily by male friends (dictionary.com)
- is a party for a man who is about to be married usually attended by men only (merriam)
Want to break the mold? Go for it. I know two friends who attended different co-ed "bachelor" parties and both left early because it was awkward. Not for me. Wouldn't recommend. You should be able to enjoy a weekend away with your best friends. If you can't do that, seek a counselor.
You can’t be serious Lmao. Idk your world but lifetime friends don’t have to live in the same state Ctfu. Also many friends have different friend groups. I’ve been in 6 weddings and best man in 2. All still together. 7-8 guys on each side are not going to know EVERY friend of the bride. But like I said I don’t think he should be with his fiancée during the bachelor party at all but if that’s what he wants to do, this is how one of my friends compromised. We were downtown for 3 days and met up with her and her girls 1 day
Why does a bachelor party have to be 3 days. make it just one evening if you can’t be away from your fiancé for so long. it also doesn’t have to be with strippers, who really wants that anyway unless your mates are all high school kids or frat boys. Have a night out with the guys. don’t bring her!
I second what most of the other people said here -- This is a party for the group, not just you. It's a chance for the boys to get together and celebrate your friendship. They're treating you to a weekend (typically the groom doesn't pay for the weekend) but also the groom doesn't typically PLAN the weekend.
Your brother is kindly telling you that you're making it weird.
It’s your bachelor party, so do it how you want. But as I see it, a bachelor party is the last Guys’ Night Out before getting married. It doesn’t have to be 100% debauchery. But it’s guys doing guy stuff and the bachelorette is girls doing girl stuff.
You going to get your nails done with the ladies and tag along for the bachelorette party, too? No! Because they don’t want your a$s there anymore than your bro’s want your lady (and not theirs) tagging along for guy time.
Just because you’re married doesn’t mean you have to lose you maleness, your individuality and be connected at the hip like Siamese twins for the whole marriage, and even before at the bachelor party.
OP, my wife and I went camping with a big group of our friends the weekend before our wedding in lieu of bachelor/bachelorette parties, and nearly 11 years into the marriage, everything has turned out fine.
OP, my wife and I went camping with a big group of our friends the weekend before our wedding in lieu of bachelor/bachelorette parties, and nearly 11 years into the marriage, everything has turned out fine.
Having a nice pre-wedding party with close friends instead of a bachelor party sounds just fine, but that is not what the OP is proposing.
He is proposing bringing his fiance to a bachelor party.
OP, will you bachelor party include female friends, or just males and your wife. Will your wife be having a bachelorette, and will you be attending that?
It sounds like you don't want a bachelor party. So don't have one. Just do what Been There, Done That did.