pumpiron wrote:
To parents: what age were your kids when you felt like parenting was less hands-on all the time?
I have a 10-month old and it feels like we are barely keeping our heads above water.
Does it get easier?
Yes, it gets easier. At 10 months, they've got you running, non-stop.
Age 2-3:
It gets better because they're out of diapers. That's also about the same age they stop doing some of the radically dangerous stuff 10-month-olds like to do (eat batteries, stick forks in electrical outlets, fall down stairs, etc) which helps. Changing diapers constantly beats you down and when that's gone, life is better. You physical workload drops about 50% here, because they don't need diaper changes and don't need to be manually spoon-feeding them non-stop.
Age 5-6:
When they're in kindergarten it gets much easier, because they're in school, plus they can dress themselves. This is an age where you can say, "Get your coat on and get in the car." And they'll do it. It's not like wresting an alligator to get them dressed and out the door, which it is sometimes, with a 10 month old. At this age they're still super fun and like you. There's still work to do at this age, but the time demand is only 25% of what it was when they were in diapers.
Age 11-13:
It gets much easier here, because they want to do things with their friends instead of their parents and hide in their rooms constantly. It's a little sad that it's that way, but a lot less demanding on your time. You still have to drive them around constantly, though, which takes time. There's still work to do at this age, but the time demand is 10% of what it was when they were in diapers.
Age 15-16: They're driving and doing their own thing. You just have to make sure they're doing good in school and not getting in with the wrong crowd, with behavioral problems. There's still work to do at this age, but the time demand is 2% of what it was when they were in diapers.
TLDR: It gets a little bit easier bit every day, until they're school age, when it's much better.