[quote]King Joe wrote:
I have female friend who I used to be intimate with. We were truly great friends but always very different people, so even when we were hanging out a lot and getting naked together, we were never a couple.
How were they a great friend in the past? Did they provide you highly critical advice about how you were lacking in pretty much every aspect of you life? If not, perhaps reconsider your approach; unless you don't want to be (just) friends.
Anyway, I distanced myself from her earlier this year after getting pretty frustrated with her lack of maturation and psychological development. She is 28 years old now and still acts like some stupid 19 year old who just wants to party and have fun and never apply herself or anything.
You sound like a cold father who doesn't approve of their child's friends and doesn't want anything to do with their child unless they are receiving high grades or are set to have a high paying "serious" profession.
Still thinks it's funny to get shatfaced drunk and hangs out with people in their early 20s.
That's because it is fun to get shatfaced drunk and hang out with people in their 20's.
I don't really know what to do about her. She has been an incredible friend to me, but even after trying to have difficult conversations with her about this a couple times, nothing seems to be changing at all, to the point it's starting to get kind of ridiculous in my opinion.
I'm confused why you care so much about her. Do you love her? Do you have a savior complex? You don't want to be someone that only has people in your life you can control. Friends and loved ones are not meant to do everything we think they should do just because "we know best."
You say you have always been told you are mature for your age. I have heard similar things about people that simply are too serious, highly judgemental of others, and don't know how to have fun and relax.